Tommy Brownell
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My understanding - and I may be wrong - is that it was the "store game" and the game her boyfriend was already playing at (and yes, the fact that her boyfriend shrugged all this off should have been a huge red flag for her).Yeah, game store environments are very hit or miss. But if I understand you right, they were not allowing her at their table, not preventing her from playing in the store? I just don't agree (and here we may begin our disagreement rivalry) with that being gatekeeping. Regardless of whether the reasons have merit or not, no one is forced to accept anyone else at their table. The barriers to joining this hobby remain effectively nil even if you can't get a seat at whatever table you want to, especially when it's a table you really wouldn't want to be at.
Me, personally, I ran my games at home. So I will gatekeep the fuck out of that. Because to play in my game, I need to be comfortable with you being in my house and around my kids. But if I were running in a public place, I would be cognizant of the fact that acting like a complete douche is now a reflection, fair or unfair, on everyone else at the table, the store we're gaming in, and the hobby as a whole. Same is if I'm running at a convention (which I don't do). Your mileage may vary on this.
Edit: I use past tense on where I ran my games because my home group now plays exclusively online. But I'm not advertising for players with a disclaimer that "No Girls Are Allowed". It's a private game that no one would ever know about if I didn't talk about it.