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I was lucky and my mom of all people got me into a good grooming habit around 11 or 12 after she advised that females pay attention to grooming and showed me how to look sharp. It turned out to be great advice although I still don't know how females can tell a $10 haircut from a $50 one (I can't tell the fucking difference, that's for sure). By the time I was 17 the Marine Corps focus on grooming and hygiene was like second nature for me LOL.

One thing I don't miss is breaking out the razor every day. I used to be one of those annoying "facial hair isn't a substitute for a jaw line" dudes but ever since I gained weight I just use one of those Phillips Norelco deals for the permanent 5 o' clock shadow look. Bunny prefers a bit of stubble on my face anyway.

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Somewhere in the wilds of the internet, I ran across a word that's a portmanteau of "procrastination" and "productivity." Can't quite remember the term, but that's what I'm up to tonight. The kitchen and guest bathroom really need cleaned, and I really don't want to do that, so I am doing pretty much every possible chore other than cleaning the kitchen and bathroom.
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Please do yourself a favor and pay someone to do it. I grew up really poor and for most of my life thought paying someone to do chores was wasteful until I realized my time is more valuable than money.


Fenris-77 said:
and took the piss out of a thread on ENWorld with some crafty Super Troopers quotes.
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+10 cool points because Super Troopers is one of the GOAT comedy flicks. Just thinking about Super Troopers makes me smile. It's a shame part 2 was so mediocre.
 
For hours I have heard kittens meowing in terror and need. I can't pinpoint where they are coming from so I ask my asshole neighbor who is watering his back yard. He is almost certainly hard of hearing from using zero protection with loud tools like jackhammers and his MO is to pretend not to hear me or understand English as well so I have to hit him up a few times. All he says is "they are not mine," and wanders away because non-confrontational. I climb our shared wall and see three wet newborn kittens piled by a trash can. No doubt he moved them from their nest when he was watering his back yard. I shouldn't be surprised the same guy who uses a jackhammer or lawnmower on a Saturday at 7am doesn't care about baby animals either; he comes from a country that is so poor people sell their children so I imagine baby animals are waaay out of his monkeysphere.

Much as I want to bang on his door to confront him for being an asshole and take those kittens I need to think this through. Their mom should return within 24 hours but this guy also holds family gatherings on the weekend so that might scare her away.

Edit: Welp after a shouting match we are taking the kittens. Neither he nor his wife could understand why we would care about the kittens or be upset they were thrown away like trash.
 
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For hours I have heard kittens meowing in terror and need. I can't pinpoint where they are coming from so I ask my asshole neighbor who is watering his back yard. He is almost certainly hard of hearing from using zero protection with loud tools like jackhammers and his MO is to pretend not to hear me or understand English as well so I have to hit him up a few times. All he says is "they are not mine," and wanders away because non-confrontational. I climb our shared wall and see three wet newborn kittens piled by a trash can. No doubt he moved them from their nest when he was watering his back yard. I shouldn't be surprised the same guy who uses a jackhammer or lawnmower on a Saturday at 7am doesn't care about baby animals either; he comes from a country that is so poor people sell their children so I imagine baby animals are waaay out of his monkeysphere.

Much as I want to bang on his door to confront him for being an asshole and take those kittens I need to think this through. Their mom should return within 24 hours but this guy also holds family gatherings on the weekend so that might scare her away.

Edit: Welp after a shouting match we are taking the kittens. Neither he nor his wife could understand why we would care about the kittens or be upset they were thrown away like trash.
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Good on you for saving those little fluffy ones!

In other news, I got a kitty friend this week too!

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This is Mayonaka and she is the most gorgeous little V O I D, I love her to bits. I was expecting her to be very timid around me, as she is young and I think she might have been the smallest in her litter, when I met all the kittens for adoption she was by far the shyest, but she was already climbing up and falling asleep on me just her second night here; we bonded really quickly.

She's also already a gamer! She found an M:tG spindown life counter, which she quickly adopted as a kitty toy and happily bats around my living room :smile:
 
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
 
Ladybird said:
Good on you for saving those little fluffy ones!

In other news, I got a kitty friend this week too!

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This is Mayonaka and she is the most gorgeous little V O I D, I love her to bits. I was expecting her to be very timid around me, as she is young and I think she might have been the smallest in her litter, when I met all the kittens for adoption she was by far the shyest, but she was already climbing up and falling asleep on me just her second night here; we bonded really quickly.

She's also already a gamer! She found an M:tG spindown life counter, which she quickly adopted as a kitty toy and happily bats around my living room :smile:
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I am not religious but my first thought on seeing her picture was that she is a beautiful little angel straight from heaven.

We left the kittens in a safe place in our backyard in a box lined with a towel. Less than an hour later momma cat came by and moved them underneath the greenhouse in our backyard. Landlady will probably flip out if she sees them but I will deal with that when and if it happens. At least they aren't in immediate danger any more.
 
Ladybird said:
Good on you for saving those little fluffy ones!

In other news, I got a kitty friend this week too!

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This is Mayonaka and she is the most gorgeous little V O I D, I love her to bits. I was expecting her to be very timid around me, as she is young and I think she might have been the smallest in her litter, when I met all the kittens for adoption she was by far the shyest, but she was already climbing up and falling asleep on me just her second night here; we bonded really quickly.

She's also already a gamer! She found an M:tG spindown life counter, which she quickly adopted as a kitty toy and happily bats around my living room :smile:
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Mayonaka is such a beautiful name! At first I thought it was Polynesian but Google says it’s Japanese for midnight. She seems well suited for that name!

A year and a half ago my family got their first pets. We got two baby kittens a boy and a girl. The boy doesn’t like to be petted too much (he will tolerate it for a few minutes) but the girl wants to be petted and wants to snuggle all the time. That’s great as far as it goes but when she is not being petted she likes to break things. Her last victim was a $1700 chandelier which she managed to crash on to the table!
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Remember all this will pass.
The Pub door is always open
Take care mate
 
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I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Will miss seeing your posts, but of course take care of yourself man. We'll be here when you are ready to come back.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Hey man, you're a cool dude and I would totally hang with you if you were local. Sometimes sharing your problems with an uncritical listener helps- shoot me a PM if you wanna vent on Discord. I hope this passes quickly.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Sending you good vibes. I've been in your spot, you have many here who value you highly. I hope you find what you need.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Sorry to hear that. Hope you feel better soon. HMU anytime, here or on Discord, if you’d like to vent.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Do what you need to to get well and come back to us.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Stay strong. We will be here when you return with swopen arms
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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I hope you find some joy or something you're doing to make you feel proud/good. We'll be here for you
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on..
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The only advice I can give you here is "Get out of the house and catch some rays." This is easier said than done; I almost didn't leave my bed or sofa in 4 months, but the sun and some activity do help.
Also try to talk to people, even if it's just the cashier at your local grocery store. Isolation is not the way to beat this mother.

Giganotosaurus said:
Depression sucks.
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Power to you. And take your time.
 
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Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Take some time, look after yourself, and come back to us when you're feeling better; don't forget to reach out if you need help, too. Life is tough, don't feel you have to suffer alone.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Take care of yourself. As a bipolar depressive, I understand all to well how that can happen. Strength, Kindness, and love to you. We'll be around when you feel like coming back.
 
Had a good and busy weekend.

Started occupational therapy for my finger injury on Friday morning. Gamed on Friday evening.

Saturday one of my gaming buddies went with me to see the band Dorothy at the House of Blues, which was a great show. The first opening band, Classless Act, was also quite fun. The other opening band was meh, but that provided a good opportunity to hit the head, buy a Dorothy t-shirt, and refresh our drinks, haha.

My buddy had offered to spring for a Lyft to get us home after the show, but when we saw that it would be ~$60 back to our neighborhood, we mutually decided that walking a few blocks to the train station and getting home for $2.50/person was a better idea.

Sunday was my dad's 75th birthday, so I FaceTimed him for about an hour. Seemed like he and my mom were having a great day.
 
E-Rocker said:
Had a good and busy weekend.

Started occupational therapy for my finger injury on Friday morning. Gamed on Friday evening.

Saturday one of my gaming buddies went with me to see the band Dorothy at the House of Blues, which was a great show. The first opening band, Classless Act, was also quite fun. The other opening band was meh, but that provided a good opportunity to hit the head, buy a Dorothy t-shirt, and refresh our drinks, haha.

My buddy had offered to spring for a Lyft to get us home after the show, but when we saw that it would be ~$60 back to our neighborhood, we mutually decided that walking a few blocks to the train station and getting home for $2.50/person was a better idea.

Sunday was my dad's 75th birthday, so I FaceTimed him for about an hour. Seemed like he and my mom were having a great day.
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Dorothy is so good! Gotta queue their new album.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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I'm there with you, man. Everyone keeps telling me to take it a day at a time, but sometimes its hard to even take it an hour at a time. I keep going to the sites that I go to and doing things hoping that fake it until you make it is really a thing. That, or the nightmare passes. But I know I have to put in the work to get past this.
 
Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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I can totally relate to this, as I'm in a similar situation (not having nightmares, but I have had a few panic attacks the other night). Take care of yourself
 
urbwar said:
I can totally relate to this, as I'm in a similar situation (not having nightmares, but I have had a few panic attacks the other night). Take care of yourself
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I'm not chemically depressed but I'll get into gloomy moods and obsess on bad expectations... and one surefire thing that helps me, at least a bit, is helping other people with something... anything to take me out of my own solar system of problems and into theirs (which are usually worse). Not that I won't get depressed again as soon I'm back home alone, but at least it's some relief for a while.
 
Simlasa said:
I'm not chemically depressed but I'll get into gloomy moods and obsess on bad expectations... and one surefire thing that helps me, at least a bit, is helping other people with something... anything to take me out of my own solar system of problems and into theirs (which are usually worse). Not that I won't get depressed again as soon I'm back home alone, but at least it's some relief for a while.
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My own experience is the same. When I feel depressed the best solution is "getting out of my head" and helping others (this includes animals). I have also noticed that regular exercise seems to keep my mental state in a healthy place and prolonged inactivity tends to have the opposite effect.

Dealing with things like grief and depression are part of the human condition. Honestly I would be a little wary of anyone who has never felt depression at some point in their life.
 
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Giganotosaurus said:
I'm probably going to be taking a break from the Pub for a while.
Since I left my last job life has lost its luster. Nothing really brings me joy anymore, and even things that used to boil my blood and fill me with anger don't inspire the reaction they used to. I'm tired all the time so the days just drag on, while sleep is regularly filled with nightmares.
Depression sucks.
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Been there...take care of yourself man. Will miss your posts.
 
So I'm trying to make sense of the IFRS17 standards tonight.
 
Spent a long weekend in Nashville and saw NIN. It's only their third concert in four years so we were all itching to see them again. They did a festival in Atlanta but we weren't interested in seeing them do a short set so a road trip was mandatory. The concert was in a converted quarry and it was a fantastic venue.

Plus we (nine of us) got another chance to bar hop through Broadway in Nashville for a night. Lots of drinks, food, and tons of live music everywhere you turned. We did discover that if a lady in a bachelorette party has a QR code on her breasts and she obliges, common courtesy is that you scan it and donate to the bride to be. Crazy, fun place.
 
Since I have no healthcare, I signed up for GoodRX Gold, which can do one time refills on medicines. My initial consult wasn't good, as they claimed I needed to go to urgent care simply because some symptoms I reported (as I was experiencing them at the time I filled out their questions) made them think I was having kidney issues (which I'm not). I was really upset because I ran out of insulin the day before. Thankfully I got a call from an actual doctor this morning (who woke me up, as she is on the East Coast). After giving me a chance to go into detail about my situation and how one symptom went away few hours after my first consult, agreed to give me prescriptions for my diabetes medicines. They only do this short term, so hopefully I can get a job before then (I have an interview this afternoon, so hopefully I won't be waiting too long). If not, there's a few other options to get more if I need it
 
Ladybird said:
Good on you for saving those little fluffy ones!

In other news, I got a kitty friend this week too!


This is Mayonaka and she is the most gorgeous little V O I D, I love her to bits. I was expecting her to be very timid around me, as she is young and I think she might have been the smallest in her litter, when I met all the kittens for adoption she was by far the shyest, but she was already climbing up and falling asleep on me just her second night here; we bonded really quickly.

She's also already a gamer! She found an M:tG spindown life counter, which she quickly adopted as a kitty toy and happily bats around my living room :smile:
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Cute cat, but that white bar thing (laundry drying rack?) in the corner isn't going to keep her out of that pile of stuff :-) (just had to comment about what had the look of a fence trying to protect the pile in the corner)
 
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Cute cat, but that white bar thing (laundry drying rack?) in the corner isn't going to keep her out of that pile of stuff :-) (just had to comment about what had the look of a fence trying to protect the pile in the corner)
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Oh no, it's just for laundry drying :smile:

She sits up in the box on my cardigan during the day when I'm working, it gets fairly good sunlight!
 
urbwar said:
Since I have no healthcare, I signed up for GoodRX Gold, which can do one time refills on medicines. My initial consult wasn't good, as they claimed I needed to go to urgent care simply because some symptoms I reported (as I was experiencing them at the time I filled out their questions) made them think I was having kidney issues (which I'm not). I was really upset because I ran out of insulin the day before. Thankfully I got a call from an actual doctor this morning (who woke me up, as she is on the East Coast). After giving me a chance to go into detail about my situation and how one symptom went away few hours after my first consult, agreed to give me prescriptions for my diabetes medicines. They only do this short term, so hopefully I can get a job before then (I have an interview this afternoon, so hopefully I won't be waiting too long). If not, there's a few other options to get more if I need it
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I hope this isn't too political, but sometimes I'm shocked, dismayed and angry that people I know in the US have to live this way.
 
spittingimage said:
I hope this isn't too political, but sometimes I'm shocked, dismayed and angry that people I know in the US have to live this way.
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As someone who lives in the US and lived a lot of years without insurance (and many years with insurance that was expensive to have and then on top of it too expensive to actually use (high copays, denying coverage, etc), thankfully I have good insurance now)... yeah it sucks.
 
I had good corporate insurance for a while, good private insurance for a while, good state insurance, bad marketplace insurance, bad state insurance and now meh marketplace insurance. The only thing worse than the worst of those is no insurance I suspect. I read the bills for my son's broken arm (which was extreme and not in any way a normal break) and if I'd had no insurance the bill would have been well north of $250k. As it is I'm probably only going to pay around $6k when all is said and done.
 
I lucked out that when I got seriously injured (when I lost sight in my right eye and had to have multiple surgeries on it), it was during the 2008 recession and I was working in renovations and repairs, and NO ONE was doing any work that wasn't necessary. Renovations were nonexistent, repairs were only for things that were absolutely necessary. So basically I had very very little work, and what work I did have I shared with my dad (who was in the same field, he taught me how to do everything I know how to do), so I made like, almost nothing for about two years (I paid my rent by doing repairs on other rental properties for my landlord, I made under $10k a year otherwise for 2008 and 2009).

Which meant I qualified for Medicaid. If it hadn't happened right at that time I have no idea how I would have ever paid for it all. I didn't have insurance for most of the years I worked doing that cause I worked for myself and it is insanely expensive to get insurance outside of your employment.
 
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Had a follow-up appointment today about the surgery I had in January. Everything is fine. The rep from the company that makes my implant was there to explain some stuff. I noticed that she's definitely on the taller side & was curious exactly how tall, but thought it might be weird to ask. Then I noticed that, on her security badge, below her picture, it said "5' 11" green eyes." Question answered without me making it awkward, haha.

The OT I've been doing for my injured finger is definitely helping. I can actually imagine a future where I have a fully functional right hand again.
 
Brock Savage said:
Please do yourself a favor and pay someone to do it. I grew up really poor and for most of my life thought paying someone to do chores was wasteful until I realized my time is more valuable than money.
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This sure as hell resonates with me. I grew up in a family where we did all our house work and backyard work.
We weren't poor, my father was a postal clerk and my mother did shelf-packing at the local grocery store. Typically blue-collar small town existence here in Australia in the 1980s. I was the first in my family to go on to tertiary studies, if that's an indication of anything.

I'm not much of a handyman, so more than hammering a nail turns into a distaster for me
Much to my ageing father's disgust, but it is what it is, heh heh

I have a suburban house on a corner block in a subtropical climate - Queensland, Australia - more specially the region of South East Queensland (for USA readers the climate has often been compared to the Gulf States), so this equates to so much of my time spent mowing the lawn!

I only have two days off a week, and in summer the lawn needs mowing almost every week otherwise it gets so shabby. Living near a creek doesn't help, as sometimes the grass can be almost knee high in summer time after a week of rain. I refuse to do it every week in summer purely out of wanting time for other things, as it takes me at least half a day (often more) to do, so in summer I do it every fortnight. This adds up when doing all the internal household chores, as well as fitting in family obligations and such. Working a full week, then having to do all this at the end of it doesn't make for a relaxed life.

I finally decided to hire lawn mowing services, and it has been great. They do a good job, and I only pay them once a month.
In summer time I still tend to mow my lawn once a month, so I do it mid month, and they do it at the end of the month, including lawn/hedge trimming etc.

It's much easier on my time, and I'll happily pay for anything that frees up a few weekends for me.
I have so many other things to do with my time, I love my yard but really need to be retired to attend to it as well as keeping up with things I love more.

The good thing is that for three seasons I don't need to mow the yard at all in between the regular monthly visits from our lawn mower guy.
Which is pure heaven, it makes working full time all worth it.
He's a great fellow as well, I left him a six pack of beer at Christmas for his efforts, he appreciates stuff like that and it all makes the world go around.

The only thing is that Summer typically lasts about five months here in SE QLD... :grin:
 
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