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At least two of the threads today seem headed in this direction, again, so I thought I'd try an experiment. Obviously, no subject directly related to RPGs is verboten here at The Pub, but some are much more contentious (and a headache for staff) than others, and this one tops that list. But it's at it's worst I think when it's back and forth sniping, vague references to opinions expressed elsewhere online, and an excuse for tribalistic fence-building. So instead of allowing that to continue, I'm going ahead and starting this thread, and laying down a few ground rules first. And going to be aggressively pruning it as a tangent out of other threads - if you want to legitimately debate it, do so here, otherwise it's just a tangent that's going to inevitably end in flames.
So here's the deal...
1. Let's start with an assumption of good faith. Yeah, I know there's histry. I know there's posters here who really don't like each other, or at least dislike the opinions others have on this subject. But if we don't start from the assumption that people's responses are made in honesty and without a secret agenda, there's no point in discourse.
2. Leave the stuff that happens off the Pub off the Pub. OK, so maybe you encountered someone who said something somewhere, or you've heard some group express some opinion and it gets your goat. We get it. But unless it's something people actually present can account for or respond to, it serves no purpose to bring up. By that same token, try not to speak in generalities or group people together. We're all individuals with our own opinions, and everyone can speak for themselves.
3. Don't use any terminology without providing your definition. It just leads t continued assumptions and miscommunication. We're talking about stuff far too nerdy and too specialized to have a common dictionary definition to fall back on. In that respect, don't attack or argue with people over their definitions, that will get us nowhere and just take the conversation in circles. The point is not the terms themselves, it's understanding what a person means when they use them.
4. By that same token, part of acting in good faith is, once you know how a poster is using a term, respond to their points or arguments on those terms, not your own.
5. Obvious logical fallacies - goal-post shifting, strawmen, appeals to popularity etc. won't be tolerated. These are also bad-faith arguments. If you need a refresher on these here: https://blog.hubspot.com/marketing/common-logical-fallacies. However, likewise, if you think a person is engaging in a fallacy or bad faith argument - let the mods arbitrate that, don't try to argue it with them.
6. If you find yoursef getting angry, or otherwise emotionally upset, step back, tae a breather, and remember none of this matters - at all. It may be you cannot change anyone's mind. The point here is for everyone to have the opportunity to communicate their POV and to foster understanding. Agreement isn't a necessary part of that. If you feel like you're arguing against a brick wall, just walk away. As long as you've clearly laid out your position, that's all that matters. there's no winners or losers. None of this affects your life or how you game.
7. Don't expect other posters to bend over backwards to reassure you that your PoV or your opinions are "Okay". You should already know this and not need anyone to tell you this. A person expressing their opinions and preferences should not be defacto interpreted as an attack on your own.
8. Jennifer Aniston and Brain Damage Boy don't need to be named or discussed. We already know their opinions, and the arguments they've made. This thread isn't about them.
9. No personal attacks, no group attacks.
10. As is probably implied, this thread will be more heavily moderated than usual. If you are upset with a mod call, then recall the Site and community forum is the right place to discuss that, and mods aren't obliged to put up with abuse anymore than any other poster.
So here's the deal...
1. Let's start with an assumption of good faith. Yeah, I know there's histry. I know there's posters here who really don't like each other, or at least dislike the opinions others have on this subject. But if we don't start from the assumption that people's responses are made in honesty and without a secret agenda, there's no point in discourse.
2. Leave the stuff that happens off the Pub off the Pub. OK, so maybe you encountered someone who said something somewhere, or you've heard some group express some opinion and it gets your goat. We get it. But unless it's something people actually present can account for or respond to, it serves no purpose to bring up. By that same token, try not to speak in generalities or group people together. We're all individuals with our own opinions, and everyone can speak for themselves.
3. Don't use any terminology without providing your definition. It just leads t continued assumptions and miscommunication. We're talking about stuff far too nerdy and too specialized to have a common dictionary definition to fall back on. In that respect, don't attack or argue with people over their definitions, that will get us nowhere and just take the conversation in circles. The point is not the terms themselves, it's understanding what a person means when they use them.
4. By that same token, part of acting in good faith is, once you know how a poster is using a term, respond to their points or arguments on those terms, not your own.
5. Obvious logical fallacies - goal-post shifting, strawmen, appeals to popularity etc. won't be tolerated. These are also bad-faith arguments. If you need a refresher on these here: https://blog.hubspot.com/marketing/common-logical-fallacies. However, likewise, if you think a person is engaging in a fallacy or bad faith argument - let the mods arbitrate that, don't try to argue it with them.
6. If you find yoursef getting angry, or otherwise emotionally upset, step back, tae a breather, and remember none of this matters - at all. It may be you cannot change anyone's mind. The point here is for everyone to have the opportunity to communicate their POV and to foster understanding. Agreement isn't a necessary part of that. If you feel like you're arguing against a brick wall, just walk away. As long as you've clearly laid out your position, that's all that matters. there's no winners or losers. None of this affects your life or how you game.
7. Don't expect other posters to bend over backwards to reassure you that your PoV or your opinions are "Okay". You should already know this and not need anyone to tell you this. A person expressing their opinions and preferences should not be defacto interpreted as an attack on your own.
8. Jennifer Aniston and Brain Damage Boy don't need to be named or discussed. We already know their opinions, and the arguments they've made. This thread isn't about them.
9. No personal attacks, no group attacks.
10. As is probably implied, this thread will be more heavily moderated than usual. If you are upset with a mod call, then recall the Site and community forum is the right place to discuss that, and mods aren't obliged to put up with abuse anymore than any other poster.