Which is why I still feel it is a best practice for players to be aware if fudging is on the table.I agree. It goes both ways. On casual end, gamers who would expect an RPG to follow rules, just like a board game. Also, I when I first ran RPGs for my nephews, they were very intent on making sure there were solid rules going on behind the screen, that it wasn't just me making stuff up. If I'd been fudging, they would have been disappointed.
It's complicated.