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So- I have a situation where it feels crappy to complain, but crappy not to... so I'll complain here.

The Scrum Master on our team (we're using proto-SAFE - planning for a month at a time with two two-week increments in it and he does a lot of the admin work) has been having health problems lately. He finally got in to see a specialist who was able to tell him what's wrong - he has metastasized esophageal cancer and isn't coming back to work.

So... as the Technical Product Owner, it all falls on me. "It's an opportunity to step up!" Feels more like getting more work done for the same pay in the same time...

I hope the best for him, and my situation is better than his- which makes complaining about my increased responsibilities outside of my wheelhouse seem petty...
My experience has been that people are promoted to the job they are doing so sometimes that "Its an opportunity" statement is true. However if your management sucks thats likely to be an opportunity to do more for the same pay.

I do see the management logic that you want to know if someone can do the role before promoting them.
 
My experience has been that people are promoted to the job they are doing so sometimes that "Its an opportunity" statement is true. However if your management sucks thats likely to be an opportunity to do more for the same pay.

I do see the management logic that you want to know if someone can do the role before promoting them.
It's not really a promotion though. I'm a technical product owner/architect that has no interest in doing the non-technical stuff. I don't even see how it could roll into that. I already get into trouble for saying I don't care how it's done and calling user story points monopoly money-- to quote a great statement that applies "It's not that I'm lazy, I just don't care"
 
It's not really a promotion though. I'm a technical product owner/architect that has no interest in doing the non-technical stuff. I don't even see how it could roll into that. I already get into trouble for saying I don't care how it's done and calling user story points monopoly money-- to quote a great statement that applies "It's not that I'm lazy, I just don't care"
Yes there is the problem for Engineers who dont want to move into management. At some point you either have to be working on the thing(s) that expand the business and make money or you just top out. At some point the single highest value you have at a company is managing more people who can do things because you know how they most likely should be done. It's not that fun and often not respected from below but from above it's how the company grows so they value it highly. Sorta sucks if thats not the route you want to go.
 
Yes there is the problem for Engineers who dont want to move into management. At some point you either have to be working on the thing(s) that expand the business and make money or you just top out. At some point the single highest value you have at a company is managing more people who can do things because you know how they most likely should be done. It's not that fun and often not respected from below but from above it's how the company grows so they value it highly. Sorta sucks if thats not the route you want to go.
Yeah I already made that sacrifice last year... the choice between getting a new manager or becoming one pushed me. I now have 5 reports and am the PO for the team... now the SCM too...
 
Yeah I already made that sacrifice last year... the choice between getting a new manager or becoming one pushed me. I now have 5 reports and am the PO for the team... now the SCM too...

Yep. I know this pain. I've got 36 people in my department, and due to, uh, shitty? hiring processes by my employer, only about half of them are capable of doing their jobs. Lets just say that nepotism and cronyism are real and present dangers in my organization.

So, when someone is out, or simply can't do their job, I end up having to do their job for them. First world problems, I know, and I try to remind myself of that when I'm having to literally start from scratch on projects, or find out stuff they were supposed to do 2 years ago didn't get done correctly, etc. Makes me feel all...:madgoose:
 
When I do this sort of thing, I distribute the stuff I cooked into containers that hold about 2 servings before I freeze it.
absolutely. makes it so much easier. much tastier than most frozen meals, less sodium, and better quality ingredients, not to mention about 20% of the cost.
 
For a little while I would just make a weeks worth of lunches for myself and my wife on Sundays. stopped doing it because of the storage problem (we just had a regular fridge/freezer at the time, but strongly considering trying to do it again now that we have the chest freezer.)

It was nice to have decent food that took no brain in the middle of the work day, even though I work from home and can literally just stop and cook a whole ass meal for myself if I want... but you know who has that energy in the middle of work.
 
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A recent encounter in my side yard.

A robin (having flown from its nest in the lilac to another nearby bush):
“Look at me, strange potential predator with six legs that growls constantly! Listen to my singing and cheeping! Pay no attention to that brown nesty thing in yonder bush!”

Me (already getting a bit tired out):
“For God’s sake, bird, I don’t care about your nest. I just want to finish mowing the lawn.”
 
Yay, I got a Baphomet staring right at me. Boobs and all, Solve et Coagula!
 
I still exist.

Albeit I feel like a different man at times.

I've taken up hiking, starting small. God, how could I spend so much of my life away from nature? And Rio has the most amazing hiking trails.

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Dating and hooking up is fun. It does get your heart broken emotionally confusing at times. And expensive. But still fun.

Money is tighter than it's ever been for obvious reasons. Chasing new opportunities in my field to make my dreams happen. (I have dreams again! Aspirations! Ambitions!) Slow process but I am cautiously optimistic.

Sometimes I cry for no particular reason. For all the reasons.

I miss my kid most of the time, but being with him is a thrill. I try to come up with new things for us to do and currently I'm hellbent in showing him age-appropriate film classics from my childhood (plus a few that escaped me).

When all else fails it's the gym, therapy and my kid that keep me afloat. But mostly I'm looking forward to the future, and doing my best to enjoy the present, warts and all.

I miss you guys, the memes and the silliness and the collegial thing we got going on here. It's recomforting to visit some of the old threads. (I have no fucking idea what's happening in the hobby these days.) I also miss RL gaming but other things come up and push it down the priority list... it does mean I'm still missing a WFRP4 TEW campaign, and may miss a DCC Dying Earth one, but such is life.

I still want to run all these campaigns I used to post about, year after year.

Life is short.

Enjoy it.

Love you guys.
 
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I did a 4 day trip to Seattle for my birthday. Day 1 was spent driving over there.
Day 2 was great fun. I went to the Zoo and got mooned by a baby gorilla. Saw 99 bottles of beer on the wall at the Museum of History and Industry and got lost trying to find parking near the aquarium and ended up first in west Seattle, before getting lost again and ending up on beacon hill before giving up and heading home.
Day 3 was amazing. I took the underground tour and saw a Pre-Dynastic Egyptian amulet at the Seattle Museum of Art. I then spent an hour stuck in traffic before eating dinner at Canlis (A really capital F Fancy restaurant). The details of the dinner are in the food and drink thread.
Day 4 was spent driving home.
Tomorrow I have work. Sigh.
 
I still exist.

Albeit I feel like a different man at times.

I've taken up hiking, starting small. God, how could I spend so much of my life away from nature? And Rio has the most amazing hiking trails.

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Dating and hooking up is fun. It does get your heart broken emotionally confusing at times. And expensive. But still fun.

Money is tighter than it's ever been for obvious reasons. Chasing new opportunities in my field to make my dreams happen. (I have dreams again! Aspirations! Ambitions!) Slow process but I am cautiously optimistic.

Sometimes I cry for no particular reason. For all the reasons.

I miss my kid most of the time, but being with him is a thrill. I try to come up with new things for us to do and currently I'm hellbent in showing him age-appropriate film classics from my childhood (plus a few that escaped me).

When all else fails it's the gym, therapy and my kid that keep me afloat. But mostly I'm looking forward to the future, and doing my best to enjoy the present, warts and all.

I miss you guys, the memes and the silliness and the collegial thing we got going on here. It's recomforting to visit some of the old threads. (I have no fucking idea what's happening in the hobby these days.) I also miss RL gaming but other things come up and push it down the priority list... it does mean I'm still missing a WFRP4 TEW campaign, and may miss a DCC Dying Earth one, but such is life.

I still want to run all these campaigns I used to post about, year after year.

Life is short.

Enjoy it.

Love you guys.
Really great to read your post Butcher, this made my night!

Welcome back to the land of the living
Bowie sang that each week we have seven days to live our life, or seven ways to die
It's the old glass is half empty or half full idea
Keep the glass half full, just keep filling it up

I love nature as well, it's the best way to centre things. Plus our imaginations works so much better when out in nature, it's ten times the value of trying to brainstorm in an empty room. Also glad to see you are connecting with your kid, I'm sure both of you appreciate each other even more than ever now.

Enjoy all the moments that matter mate!
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I still exist.

Albeit I feel like a different man at times.

I've taken up hiking, starting small. God, how could I spend so much of my life away from nature? And Rio has the most amazing hiking trails.

View attachment 59731

Dating and hooking up is fun. It does get your heart broken emotionally confusing at times. And expensive. But still fun.

Money is tighter than it's ever been for obvious reasons. Chasing new opportunities in my field to make my dreams happen. (I have dreams again! Aspirations! Ambitions!) Slow process but I am cautiously optimistic.

Sometimes I cry for no particular reason. For all the reasons.

I miss my kid most of the time, but being with him is a thrill. I try to come up with new things for us to do and currently I'm hellbent in showing him age-appropriate film classics from my childhood (plus a few that escaped me).

When all else fails it's the gym, therapy and my kid that keep me afloat. But mostly I'm looking forward to the future, and doing my best to enjoy the present, warts and all.

I miss you guys, the memes and the silliness and the collegial thing we got going on here. It's recomforting to visit some of the old threads. (I have no fucking idea what's happening in the hobby these days.) I also miss RL gaming but other things come up and push it down the priority list... it does mean I'm still missing a WFRP4 TEW campaign, and may miss a DCC Dying Earth one, but such is life.

I still want to run all these campaigns I used to post about, year after year.

Life is short.

Enjoy it.

Love you guys.
A lot of this sounds like exactly my experience, so I commiserate with you brother. Be good to yourself.
 
About to head out to see Renfield with a subset of my RPG group. I've already seen more movies in the theater this year than in the past 2-3 years combined.
Dude, me too! In the past 5 years I went to the theater for Blade Runner 2049 and Isle of Dogs. This year I've already seen The Super Mario Bros. Movie and Spirited Away: Live on Stage. I am probably seeing Asteroid City and Barbie in the theater as well.
 
We're in the process of changing our backyard lawn into microclover and bee-friendly wildflowers. We started last year and I loved all the bees and hummingbirds we got using natural plants and flowers instead of just a lawn. Got some veggies and herbs I think should do pretty well in raised beds too, moving them out of the greenhouse because they need unfiltered sunlight methinks to do what I want them to do.
 
Late last week I got an email warning about a software package which is fairly important to my job. Now I'm back and there are literally dozens of replies, replies to replies and replies to replies to replies, all variations on the theme of 'please remove me from this list'.

Back in the Wild West days of IT, I made a habit of sending personal replies to each and every one of those in the form of "thank you for replying to the listserv so that everyone could see your email. Please enjoy this photo of a spider eating a bird'. But there are Rules Against That now. Possibly because of me. Just gonna have to suck it up and wait for an admin to disable further replies.

This happened recently at work when someone managed to email all 2,000+ employees on campus and a few nimrods hit 'Reply All' with their request to be 'removed from the list.'

Kinda classic at this point, made me laugh my ass off.
 
This happened recently at work when someone managed to email all 2,000+ employees on campus and a few nimrods hit 'Reply All' with their request to be 'removed from the list.'

Kinda classic at this point, made me laugh my ass off.
You know what's even more annoying. My elderly aunt sends greetings to all of these people as a mass text with an image. People feel compelled to respond to everyone rather than just sending something to her.
 
You know what's even more annoying. My elderly aunt sends greetings to all of these people as a mass text with an image. People feel compelled to respond to everyone rather than just sending something to her.
I get that with any emails from our dojo. Every black belt feels the need to reply all to every bit of news from our head Sensei.

So as soon as I get one of these (work or personal) I take a minute to create an auto-delete rule in Outlook for any additional emails with that subject line. Works wonders.

Every so often I have to go in to delete all those old rules that don’t matter anymore, but it’s amusing to look back at all the various nonsense I managed to avoid.
 
I get that with any emails from our dojo. Every black belt feels the need to reply all to every bit of news from our head Sensei.

So as soon as I get one of these (work or personal) I take a minute to create an auto-delete rule in Outlook for any additional emails with that subject line. Works wonders.

Every so often I have to go in to delete all those old rules that don’t matter anymore, but it’s amusing to look back at all the various nonsense I managed to avoid.
At least you can create a rule- with a mass text, you can't do anything. I don't know after all this time why phones haven't given a good option for leaving mass texts without blocking the sender.
 
Decided to skip the garden as a vegetable garden this year. Flowers only. I just don’t have time for the maintenance and my wife will maintain a flower garden ;)

got my wife an Apple Watch for an early Mother’s Day gift and she’s already obsessively closing her broken rings of shame (the fitness app has runs that complete when you meet fitness goals)
 
We're in the process of changing our backyard lawn into microclover and bee-friendly wildflowers. We started last year and I loved all the bees and hummingbirds we got using natural plants and flowers instead of just a lawn. Got some veggies and herbs I think should do pretty well in raised beds too, moving them out of the greenhouse because they need unfiltered sunlight methinks to do what I want them to do.

Same here, although due to California droughts, I got rid of the grass a while ago. I'm adding clover to the front flower garden to add some ground cover, and it also returns nitrogen back to the soil, so I figure it will help the bulbs and roses I have out there.

Planted the vegetables last weekend: two tomatoes, 4 bell peppers, a jalapeno, squash, zucchini, and a bunch of onions, carrots, and beans. Already have a half dozen asparagus plants as well. Plus, I'm hoping the extensive rain this year makes my apple, nectarine, pear and plumb trees happier...the last few summers were pretty bad.
 
LOL, we're just now getting to the point in MN where frost is no longer an issue. That said, people sometimes will start seeds indoors and then transplant them once it warms up.

Not sure what I want to try to grow on my balcony this year. Usually I do a few types of herbs, but I'm thinking about tomatoes or peppers this time.
 
Speaking of family, about to go pick my parents up from the airport. They're gonna be here for the next ten days, which is a little longer than I had in mind when I suggested they come visit. But 2021 was a major object lesson in "see the people you love while you still can," so I will choose to be happy about it.
 
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